First off, I am incredibly sorry for your loss. Secondly, I never said that anyone’s depression defines them. It is a thing that my mind does to me that I have to work at. Letting it define me is as dangerous as ignoring it.

If you’ll grant me five more minutes of your time, I’d encourage you to read another essay I wrote on depression that goes into this with a little more depth: https://medium.com/@monteiro/this-is-about-the-time-i-chose-not-to-die-3c2cc97cf769

Thank you so much for reaching out.